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Trauma-informed self-assessment

Is It Love – or Is It Abuse?
The Relationship Reality Assessment

28 questions that show whether you are caught in the pattern of narcissistic abuse – manipulation, control and a trauma bond – and how your nervous system is responding to it.

By Antonia Morgan · M.S. in Psychology · trauma-informed specialist

Before you begin

Think of one specific relationship – a partner, an ex, a parent, a sibling or a boss. Answer for the last 12 months, or for the time the relationship lasted if it has already ended.

There are no right or wrong answers. Answer by what actually happens, not by what you hope or think you should feel. The assessment has 28 questions and takes about 8–10 minutes.

You will see your overall score and your results in three areas immediately, free of charge. A detailed personal report – interpretation of every area, your survival response profile (fight, flight, freeze or fawn) and concrete next steps grounded in peer-reviewed research – is available as an optional upgrade.

Your answers stay in your browser. Nothing is sent or saved anywhere else.

Important: this is an educational self-assessment, not a clinical diagnosis of you or of anyone else.